It’s been a while since you’ve last had kink on your mind. But with Valentine’s Day fast approaching, now is the time for all those sexual fantasies to come out of hiding and onto centre stage. Here are some great kinky sex tips and tricks that are sure to get you off this year.

Take turns being dominant or submissive. If it’s true what they say about keeping one’s eyes closed before engaging in a sensual experience, then keep them open during foreplay. This way not only can both partners enjoy each other’s bodies but also take part in stimulating dialogue. A good place to start? The classic role play scenario whereby one partner plays as master/mistress/dominatrix (whatever name suits) and the other as slave/submissives (slavey). Or swap roles in-between scenes. Have fun! You don’t have to be committed to these particular acts forever — just until you feel comfortable enough to try something new.

Try blindfolds or handcuffs

It doesn’t matter whether you like light bondage or full-on BDSM; there is no right or wrong answer here. Blindfolding someone is an easy way to start their journey into submission — even if at first they may find themselves feeling vulnerable. In terms of cuffs, consider how many different ways you could put them on (and remove them from people), and which ones would give you more pleasure than others. Whatever you decide, make sure you wear gloves when handling any kind of restraints and never leave anyone bound up unattended. If you do happen to be wearing clothing over your outfit, make sure all your buttons and zips are secure.

Get creative with masturbation

Masturbation has long been seen as somewhat “boring” by society, so why not shake things up and see what happens? Try masturbating whilst blindfolded to add another layer of mystery. Use lube and massage yourself against furniture or walls to increase sensation levels. And make use of props such as pillows, toys, clothes and whatever else might tickle your fancy. Think outside the box too… perhaps try having sex with someone who isn’t physically present, or using remote control vibrators instead of hands. Get as inventive as possible and really go wild with your imagination.

Explore mutual masturbation

There is nothing hotter than watching your lover touch themselves, especially during intimate moments. Mutual masturbation is often overlooked because men seem uncomfortable doing it, however it shouldn’t be dismissed altogether as women generally love playing with their own genitals. Start small though.

Ask your partner to watch you pleasuring yourself, then gradually move towards giving them permission to reciprocate. Once you’re confident, ask them to help you masturbate. They’ll probably want to hold you close afterwards, and neither of you will need much convincing that it was worth taking the plunge.

Give oral stimulation

Whether manual clitoral stimulation is done manually via fingers or orally through lips, it is always hot to receive oral attention. Not convinced yet? Look around your local adult store and check out different types of dildos and tongues. The possibilities are endless! Oral sex involves touching places that most couples usually avoid due to taboo concerns. So, let your inner exhibitionist run free and explore where your body leads you without worrying about getting caught.

Use a strap-on

Strap-ons are fantastic tools for adding variety to a couple’s sex life. Simply slip yours inside your pants and get ready for action. Don’t forget to clean thoroughly after every session, and wash under your sink rather than leaving dirty lingerie lying around. For extra safety, opt to buy a harness version instead, which means you won’t accidentally fall off mid-way through intercourse. If you’re looking for further options, think about buying a wand vibrator for penetration purposes.

Play doctor

What better excuse is there for kissing than making eye contact with your partner, gently placing your hand on their belly button and asking “is everything alright”? Another option is to lie naked side-by-side and discuss anything medical worries you might have. When everyone feels reassured, begin exploring each other’s bodies together. Take note of any changes, bumps, cuts or injuries and treat accordingly. Talk openly about safe sex practices too.

These aren’t necessarily rules but guidelines for you to follow. Be adventurous and remember to stay within reason, respect boundaries set down and ensure consent takes precedence above all else. Make yourselves happy tonight.